Do not look at him as a sinner

“If one night you see someone committing a sin,

tomorrow do not look at him as a sinner,

he may have repented during the night and you did not know.”

— Ali ibn Abi Talib (radiallahu anhu)

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Forgiveness

Al-Fudayl ibn ‘Iyaad said,

“If someone comes to you complaining about another person, tell him:

‘My brother, forgive him, for forgiveness is close to piety.’

If he says: ‘But my heart cannot bear that. I would rather take revenge as Allaah has commanded me.’

Tell him: ‘If you are able to take revenge in the best manner, you can proceed to do so; but if you are not, resort to forgiveness, for its gate is wide. He who forgives and amends, his reward is with Allaah. The one who forgives passes his night in his bed happily and contentedly but the one who takes revenge always ponders on these things. This is because; magnanimity lies in forgiving one’s brethren.”

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Inscribed on the sword of Rasool Allah (salAllahu 3alayhi wa sallam)

Forgive him who wrongs you;

Join him who cuts you off;

Do good to him who does evil to you;

And speak the truth even if it be against yourself.

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When they are angry they forgive

فَمَا أُوتِيتُم مِّن شَيْءٍ فَمَتَاعُ الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا وَمَا عِندَ اللَّهِ خَيْرٌ وَأَبْقَى لِلَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَعَلَى رَبِّهِمْ يَتَوَكَّلُونَ

وَالَّذِينَ يَجْتَنِبُونَ كَبَائِرَ الْإِثْمِ وَالْفَوَاحِشَ وَإِذَا مَا غَضِبُوا هُمْ يَغْفِرُونَ

{So whatever you have been given is but (a passing) enjoyment for this wordly life, but that which is with Allah is better and more lasting for those who believe and put their trust in their Lord. And those who shun the greater sins and al fawaahish (immoral deeds), and when they are angry, they forgive…}

[42:36-37]

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Revenge is not sweet

Imam Ibn al-Qayyim r.h says:

“The scene of peace and coolness of heart is a very honourable for the person who recognizes it and tastes it’s sweetness. This entails his heart and his inner feelings not bothering about the harm that he has experienced,

Furthermore, his heart should not bother about avenging this harm and satisfying his soul Rather, his heart should be empty and devoid of all this. He should realize that the peace and coolness of his heart and it being devoid of all this is more beneficial for him, more delightful, more wholesome and more advantageous.”

“This is because if the heart occupies itself in any sort of revenge, it would miss all that is more important and better for it. In so doing, the person will be deceived. An intelligent and discerning person will not be pleased with that. He will consider all this to be the engagements of a foolish person. How can there be any comparison between peace of the heart and it being filled with deception and evil whisperings? And being fully engrossed with exacting revenge?”

As for the scene of peace and tranquillity — if a person abstains from replying to the harm and exacting revenge, he will save himself from all that is worse than this, if he exacts revenge, he will certainly experience fear.

This because revenge sows enmity. And an intelligent person never feels safe from his enemy even if he is an insignificant one. Many an insignificant person has brought about the fall of his major enemy.

So if a person forgives, if he does not exact any revenge, if he does not reply to the harm, he will save himself from the birth of enmity or the increase of enmity. His pardon, his forbearance and his overlooking will certainly break the power of his enemy and repulse his fear — contrary to what exacting revenge will do. Experience also bears testimony to all this.”

Ibn al-Qayyirn, Madãrij as-Salikin, Vol2 p320

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