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Spending on family

“There is nothing equivalent in reward to earning money to spend on your family, not even jihaad for the sake of Allaah.”

“Let the rich man spend according to his means, and the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what Allaah has given him..”

“No matter what you spend on your family, you will be rewarded, even for the morsel of food you put in your wife’s mouth.”

“If a Muslim spends on his wife, and hopes for reward from Allaah, it will be counted as sadaqah (charity) on his part.”

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Ibn al-Qayyim said:

Because names have meanings, these meanings will inevitably have an effect on the person who carries the name. Names have an effect on the things that are named, and the things that are named have an effect on their names, whether they are beautiful or ugly, light or heavy, subtle or crude.

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Lawful earnings become difficult as a result of marriage. There is in Hadith that if a man earns virtues to the height of mountain, he shall have to wait near the Balance and accounts will be taken from him of his wealth, of his expenditure, of his maintenance and other matters.

The children will say to Allah on the Resurrection Day: “0 our Lord, take from him the account of his duties towards us, he did not teach us what we did not know and he gave us unlawful food to eat without our knowledge. Take compensation from him for these. The Prophet Sallallahu Alyhi Wa Sallam said: “Nobody will meet Allah with a greeter sin than with a sin of keeping his family members uneducated. Very few people will get release from this danger.”

Ihya Ulum Ad Din

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Seeking knowledge at an Young age is like engraving on a stone.
– Hasan al-Basri

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While a stick is green

He whom thou hast not disciplined when a child
Will not prosper when he becomes a man.
While a stick is green, thou canst bend it as thou listest.
When it is dry, fire alone can make it straight.

~ SADI ~

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Ahnaaf bin Qays was a renowned Arab leader. He was famous amongst the Arabs for his magnificence and grandeur, for his wisdom and tolerance and for his status and majesty. Sayyidina Mu’awiyah radhiyallahu anh held him in high esteem. Sayyidina Mu’awiyah used to say: “If Ahnaf is ruined, consider all the Arabs ruined.”

Once Sayyidina Mu’awiyah summoned him. When he arrived, he asked him: “Oh Abu Bahr! What is your opinion as far as conduct with children is concerned?” He replied: “Children are the fruit of our earnest aspirations and they are the props of our backbones. We are to them like a soft and safe plot of land. We are to them like the sky that shelters them. It is due to them that we get the courage to accomplish great feats. Therefore, if the children want something, provide it delightfully and happily. Eradicate the cause of his distress and he will love you and admire your paternal endeavours. Do not become such a burden unto him that he looks forward to your death or he develops hatred for you.”
Examine these words of Ahnaf bin Qays again and again and implore ALLAH Ta’ala to entrench these words into your heart and mind.

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Allaah says, “So now have sexual relations with them,, and seek that
which Allaah has ordained for you.”

And the Prophet (SAW) said, “Marry the loving and fertile because
through you, I will compete with the nations for superiority in
numbers”(Abu Dawood)

And it is important that the Parents bring up their children upon
righteousness, so that the Parents will benefit from them during
their lives and after their death. Allaah’s Messenger (SAW) said,

“A servant will have his rank raised and will say, ‘O my Lord how has
this come about for me?’ He says, ‘through your sons after you
seeking forgiveness for you'”(ibn Maajah)

Know that what has preceded applies equally to both boys and girls,
and indeed Islaam has encouraged the bringing up of girls, and Allaah
condemns those that are distressed at the birth of a girl, and the
Messenger (SAW) came elevating the status of this gift from Allaah,

“whoever takes care of two girls until they reach adulthood – he and
I will come together on the Day of Resurrection (like this) – and he
interlaced his two fingers”(Muslim) – meaning in Paradise. So can their be a greater honour given to

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